I who may well be...

Musings from the perspective of a human being who may well be not locatable completely within the usual categories of male or female or gay or straight or transsexual or intersexed or exploiter or exploited or supplier or consumer or performer or spectator.

Monday, April 30, 2007

Dealing with others reactions to Sex Change


Great article on how and why others cope with transgenderism. Not all the surgery and law change in the world will make as much difference as just choosing to be comfortable with yourself. ~ norrie


It's either (sex) change -- or die
Sunday, April 29, 2007

While Mike Penner has been a sportswriter at the Los Angeles Times for 23 years, his average story doesn't produce more than a half-million hits on the Times' Web site. Then again, his typical story doesn't alert readers that, after a brief vacation, he will return to the beat as Christine Daniels.

On the eve of that furlough, Penner is a transitioning transsexual. In a Thursday column, he confessed he has fought the conviction that his brain is "wired female" for most of his 49 years, at a severe toll to his happiness and mental health.

"When you reach the point when one gender causes heartache and unbearable discomfort, and the other brings more joy and fulfillment that you ever imagined possible," Penner writes, "it shouldn't take two tons of bricks to fall in order to know what to do. It didn't with me. With me, all it took was 1.99 tons."

Someone who has passed this way before has one last brick to throw his way: "I hope he's at peace with himself," Anne said. "Actually, it's quite a joyful process. The pain is in the reaction of other people, for whom it's a profoundly confusing thing.

"The most profound thing I can say is that you will always be a mirror for other people's insecurity."

I've known Anne for almost 20 years . . . which means I never knew the guy who played football, got married, fathered a son and began a career in journalism. I only know the accomplished, eloquent, generous woman he became.

We haven't talked about her change in years. "The whole topic bores me," Anne said. "Been there, done that. I have no idea what goes on now in the sex-change community. I wish the people well, but I never wanted to be known as anything other than the female I am."

She still doesn't; "Anne" is not her real name. But I called Friday to get a better sense of what's ahead for Christine Daniels. Anne said it depends. On Christine's strength. Her appearance. Her peace of mind.

Anne was considerably younger when she went to see Dr. Stanley Biber, who performed 4,500 sex-change operations between 1969 and 2003. Like Penner, she fought the inevitable for years, contemplated suicide, searched for the pill that would have "made me content with that male body. I would have saved money, aggravation, grief, pain. But it doesn't work that way.

"I didn't 'become.' I just changed my body to match my mind," Anne said. And for the vast majority of men and women, she concedes, that's a tough pill to swallow: "They don't question their gender identity. They don't understand what it's like to wake up every day and, from your earliest memory, know that you're in the wrong body.

"It's either change or die. You have no choice. If you don't have the problem, you can't comprehend the need for the solution. You can only accept it. It's a lot like faith."

The superficial -- her appearance -- will be a significant factor in Christine Daniels' future, Anne said: "The hormones take years to work. If you're walking around looking like a man in a dress, you're going to have a hard time winning acceptance. Life isn't fair sometimes. People react to what they see."

And they react poorly to things they don't understand. That's where the mirror comes in. "If a person is insecure about life or sexuality, they're unable to understand this terrible dilemma," Anne said.

"But that's their problem. I feel blessed I was able to make the transition. Everyone has crosses to bear; I just had something a little more unusual to conquer. I think he's going to find that if you're comfortable with yourself, other people will be comfortable with you. But that applies to any person."


Steve Duin: 503-221-8597; 1320 S.W. Broadway, Portland, OR 97201 steveduin@news.oregonian.com http://blog.oregonlive.com/steveduin

Sunday, April 22, 2007

Support Gender Diversity in MySpace!

It's turning into an e-campaign! Come on, join the call to get norrie mAy-welby into myspace! I mean, to get my own myspace ; )

I am currently blocked from myspace.com because the sign-up page insists I list myself as either male or female, and neither is unambiguous for me, okay, I mean, you probably don't need my life story to support my call for equal participation of all humans regardless of breeding status, but by the way, I'm post-transsexual, born with a willie, identified as female, did the whole transsexual sex change thing, got into feminism and Foucault and other friendly F-words, gave up hormones, and am now quite comfortable with being myself however others see me. And comfortable with everyone being themselves as they are. Hallelujah!

E-Mails to au-mscontact@myspace.com and cc to me nmay-wel@bigpond.net.au please. We could be at the start of a documentable change from exclusion and reducing humans to categories, flowing on from one site changing its policy of excluding humans who aren't just exclusively male or female, to other sites, to all sites, to other bureaucratic media, to an acceptance of human diversity predominant in the collective human conciousness. love for humanity and for our experiential reality informing our emotional reality, peace love and perpetual bliss! Ohm!

Wishing all y'all Peace, Love and Joy

norrie mAy-welby

----- Original Message -----

Dear Myspace Administrator

I was upset to hear that Norrie mAy-welby was unable to use the myspace service. Shouldn't a web log site called "My space" allow for the space to be customised to the individual, including ones gender. This would surely allow the user to claim the space as theirs.

Please consider allowing all people to share your service.

Sam Choy

On 18/04/2007, at 4:21 PM, Rani Lukita wrote:

Dear My Space Administrator,

My name is Rani Lukita and I am a friend of norrie mAy-welby, who has expressed concerns about having to adhere to being either male or female in subscribing to your service.

Whilst such restrictions are in no way limited to your particular service, I would nonetheless urge you accommodate for gender diversity in order to maintain an even more progressive level of inclusiveness- a value that myspace is reputed for.

Until this matter has developed positively, I will be forwarding these emails through my networks, which include a diverse audience, I can assure you.

Thank you for your attention, we hope to hear from you soon.

Rani P Lukita

norrie mAy-welby a écrit :
I am still waiting to be able to sign up to myspace. I am still blocked by the compulsory choose-one-gender-only field. I want to sign up to be a "friend" of a gender queer peformance site. It's ironic that I am still blocked by your system's continued insistence on reducing every human being to a normative breeding status, and excluding all those unable or unwilling to be so reduced. It's 2007, and utterly anachronous to insist on everyone having a normative breeding status, male or female, no intersex, hermaphrodite or gender diverse humans can apply, in the computer age!

This matter having been brought to your attention well over two months now, with yet no sign of progress, this post and your reply will be going to e-mail lists for those interested in the progression of this matter.

norrie mAy-welby

----- Original Message -----
From: MySpace - AU - MSContact
To: nmay-wel@bigpond.net.au
Sent: Wednesday, February 28, 2007 12:02 AM
Subject: Re: Report - Content [#2217230]

Hi there,

Thank you for sharing your comments and suggestions. We consider them important and will take them under advisement.


--Original Message--
From: nmay-wel@bigpond.net.au
Date: 2/8/2007 4:20:50 AM
To: au-mscontact@myspace.com
Subject: Report - Content

Subject: Report - Content

The sign up page is innappropriate for people who do not
wish to state their part in human reproduction, nor for those
who do not have any part in human reproduction. For
example, and case in point, I am biologically neuter, and
socially androgynous, and have no wish to hurt my soul by
falsely descriing myself as "male" or "female"

Monday, April 16, 2007

It's all 2 beautiful

I've just enjoyed a lovely weekend at Regen, where the hills were truly alive with music. Vibrating, that is, around the clock, with the deadliest mother fucking bone-making sound systems. I had gr8 company (I love you all, SPS, Fuji Collective, Ca Ca, Configure8, Jollywood, big wet kisses and warm hugs y'all),some excessively high quality flirting, and bliss sleeping with my best friend. I'm not in love with him, but I do love him, and I'm not sexually attracted to him, but I do appreciate how utterly beautiful he is.

In between dreams, in the otherworldey light of the tent, I gazed with loving wonder at the "imperfections" on his skin, and felt overcome with gratitude for this experience, being able to appreciate the divine shining beauty inherent in this (and every) human being.

An utterly beautiful boy that said best friend and I flirted with on the weekend just sent me a lovely text, and I am so flattered that I am considerable flirtable by such an utterly angelic boy. And with that thought, I look at myself in the mirror, and thinking about such a lovely person who found me attractive, I can see that. That utter beauty, in the mirror.

Even in the imperfections.

And then, there are no imperfections.

Just divine beauty, the manifestation of divine love.

Yeah, hey, even the in wrinkles, and it's good I learnt to love them, because there will be many more, many, and deeper, and they all deserve and are worthy of love, of similar quality as the divine love that manifests our physical reality, "Within you," as the Beatles say, "and without you," (to complete the quote).

Who loves you, baby.

Tuesday, April 10, 2007

God, sex and fruit trees

Intital article, "Extremist clerics demand Pakistan's female tourism minister be fired for hugging man" at http://www.nctimes.com/articles/2007/04/10/news/politics/12_02_094_9_07.txt

It is distressing that supposedly intelligent humans threaten violence to support their perverse view that our Divine Creator is obsessed with constricting our intelligent human behaviour according to what sort of breeding bits we have.

The evidence is that God is more compassionate and bounteous than mean clerics allow. Consider the fruit tree, which wastes almost all of its sexual energy displaying beautiful hermaphrodite genitals for the pleasure of other species (who appreciate those genitals as "flowers"), and has its fertilised seed devoured as delicious fruit. Only a tiny amount of this abundant and fecund sexuality ever results in another tree, but a lot of other beings enjoy the "fruitless" fruit.

God loves abundantly, joyously, and wastefully. God does not issue fatwas.

Tuesday, April 03, 2007

The Gay Animal Kingdom


It's not actually very gay, well, it is and it isn't, but it radically critiques the narrow-minded Darwinian fixation on sex with breeding. Other animals use sex for fun, social bonding, and fun, and do not separate into gay and straight animals. They've all got pleasure neurons in their genitals, and their behaviour is not neurotically reproductive, much as the Papists (and other word-worshipping power-mongers) may be horrified at this wanton wastefulness in the wild. Non-breeders and non-breeding sexual behaviours are part of the social mix, too, and an essential part, contrary to the agrarian mindset resentful of having wasted food on a gay bull or whatever their problem is.

I like that the research was instituted by a transgender scientist, whose personal sitaation gave her a broader perspective that the standard binary fixation.

Anyway, have a read, broaden your mind, and grow beyond the seedy fixations of the anti-natural fun police.